For Eva on Your 3rd Birthday

Dearest Eva

This weekend you were 3 and I can’t quite believe it. 3 years ago, you made a dramatic, impatient and demanding entrance into the world that seems to be completely in keeping with your personality and nature today.

I remember screaming at your dad in the car on the way to the hospital that you were coming but he didn’t quite appreciate how close you were to being born; wanting to practically sort out the money for parking! My waters broke as I stepped over the threshold of the hospital and I barely managed to get my trousers off let alone get to a bed before your birth was announced at 7.40am 2nd July 2013.

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Growing up Too Soon Too Fast?

I can’t believe my baby, my youngest is growing up. It really feels like we are fully out of the baby years now and marching headstrong into being a little girl. Or should I say Big Girl.

If you had it your way, you wouldn’t be 3 at all, you’d be 4 going on 5 keeping up with your big sister Alice. You are so desperate to not be left out, to not be seen as being the “baby” of the family, that I worry. I worry that you’re trying to grow up too fast. You may only be 3 but many people have already commented to me about how you seem to have such an old head on young shoulders.

Likes a Chat

Your speech and vocabulary has always been excellent. From the moment you started talking in your first year, you have shocked and amazed people with the things you come out with! Admittedly some of the more recent conversations have involved swear words which filled me with horror. But other conversations have been shockingly grown up and hilarious. From asking me how Grandpa got to Heaven without wings to announcing last week one morning “I’m sorry mummy but I seem to have grown some more freckles in the night.” You talk A LOT. Your pre-school teachers have often commented on how you “like a chat.” But I completely love this about you. I love that you are inquisitive and curious about the world around you. And although at times it can be incredibly wearing, I love that you want to know everything about everything from where the rubbish men live to why the grass is green and what squirrels have for lunch.

Facial Expresssions

And just as you seem to have a huge vocabulary, we absolutely love your huge range of facial expressions which quite often match your mood!

 

 

This Past Year

We’ve had some momentous moments this past year. Alice started school in September and I really worried about how you would be not having your older sister and best friend around to play with and look up to. If you had your way, you’d be going to school with Alice  and staying there with her all day. Many mornings I’ve had to drag you out of the classroom (whilst in the early days trying to convince Alice to stay!)

I had thought that there would be tears and tantrums, but instead the transition went well and this is mostly because you started your own journey into the world of pre-school. Despite a couple of early day upsets, you soon grew to love the place and even now you run in most mornings without so much as a backward glance to me. You always meet me with a huge shout “Muuuuummmmmyyy!” and come charging towards me chattering at full speed about what you have been up to and most mornings ask “Mum am I going to pre-school today?” I’m  thrilled that you love it so much and I know that you’re going to enjoy spending full days there in September. In fact I’m counting on it wearing you out a bit more so that we no longer have to get up at 5.30am every morning as you have recently started demanding!

We ditched the dummy and dumped the pushchair this year and whilst in theory the lack of pushchair has been good because it means less bulk to carry around, there were times that you struggled, were tired and needed it. There were also times when I really could have done with it to contain you!

Head Strong

Everyone talks about the “Terrible Twos” but I think we may have more trouble ahead of us with the Terrible Threes. It’s only been in the last month that we’ve noticed how much more feisty and headstrong you have become. If you decide you want to do something, there is no talking you out of it or convincing you otherwise. This is often demonstrated in your outfit choices. From demanding to wear wear wellies with everything to the recent insistence on wearing a Halloween costume on the school run, to the even more recent obsession with wearing swimming costumes around the house. You are crazy, determined full of self-confidence. You have absolutely no qualms about what other people think of you and I can only hope that this quality lasts.

 

Some of your determination has been harder to bear. For some reason despite not even being 3, you seem to have taken to not needing much sleep. Your energy knows no bounds. Daytime naps went out the window before you were even 2, but in the last month you have seemed to be on the go all day and then not wanted to go to bed; getting up and down numerous times making us pull our hair out with frustration. And THEN when you finally fell into a deep sleep, you without fail between 5 and 5.30am wake us up in the most uncivilised way of banging us on our heads and demanding milk. If the milk is too cold or too hot, you scream your head off that it’s “not the right temperature.”

Your tantrums can come from nowhere and they are so intense I can feel like I’ve been smacked in the face. At times like these you have been terribly hard work and we have struggled to know how how to handle you. One thing is for sure though, if we rise to the argument we are only guaranteed of full on war followed by absolute misery; you are devastated when you are told off and seek out reassurance and cuddles, kisses and love.

And so despite all your tantrums, feisty and rageful moods, you can in contrast be as equally fierce in your giving and demanding of love, affection and attention. You frequently insist on sitting on our laps, stroking our faces and snuggling up under our cardigans or jumpers.

Knowing that we won’t be having anymore children, it feels hard letting you grow up and spread your wings, but equally, I couldn’t be any prouder.

Happy 3rd Birthday my darling girl. Happy birthday my crazy, quirky, chatty Eva.xxxxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  1. Aww this is so beautiful, as is your Eva! She sounds SO much like my three year old in so many ways, I think girls are definitely more head strong (stubborn!) than boys, that’s for sure! I hope she has a wonderful birthday, happy 3rd birthday beautiful Eva!! #coolmumclub

  2. Aw, now you’ve made her Nanny cry! Lovely post, describes her completely and beautifully, and she definitely ought to read it when she’s a bit older!! I hope you’ll write something similar for big sister for her 5th birthday too – just to make me cry again! xxx

  3. That’s really lovely Cheryl, I’m secretly glad I had two boys, which I thought they were hard enough! Xxx

  4. I recognised a few of these traits you describe in my girls! Funny to imagine Dangermouse being left behind without Tigs when she starts school – I haven’t really thought of it that way before. Good luck with the threenager…it definitely gets overshadowed by those twos, but with it comes so much fun – but you already know that 🙂
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

    1. Thanks Sarah, I’m sure some of these traits (especially the stubbornness) can be recognised the world over in 3 year olds. They’re infuriating but funny and amazing! Thanks for hosting. Xx

  5. Awww this is so beautiful. It was lovely to read and she sounds like such a character!! Happy Birthday to her! #KCACOLS

  6. What a sweet post for your daughter! I love it when kids are full of character, energy, and personality. I am sure it’s been nothing short of exciting watching her grow into her own individuality! Happy Birthday to Eva! #KCACOLS

  7. Aw, such a lovely post! So many gorgeous photos as well – I absolutely love the one with the little pumpkin costume. 🙂 I always get a lump in my throat reading birthday letters, it brings it home how quickly my own little girl is growing up too! x #KCACOLS

  8. Happy 3rd Birthday, Eva! Her photos are gorgeous – you can see her personality shining through. This is such a lovely post. My children outgrew their naps pretty quickly too, much to my dismay! #bigpinklink

  9. Oh, Happy Birthday to your beautiful Eva. It is so amazing how their personality develops over time. My son is only 15 months old, and already so unique in his own way, I cannot imagine what he’ll be like by 3! You can really see her confidence in the photos you’ve shared, and I think that’s a wonderful quality that you’ve helped foster. <3 #KCACOLS

  10. A lovely letter for a beautiful little girl! Eva sounds like such a wonderful little girl with a beautiful personality. I hope she had a fantastic birthday. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.xx

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