4 Tricky Questions from A 4 Year Old

Perhaps it’s her age. Do 4 year olds suddenly become much more inquisitive about the world around them? Or maybe it’s because my eldest daughter is now at school, but Alice has suddenly become a lot more curious, with a constant stream of questions about what’s going on around her. I love that she’s so inquisitive and want to encourage this, but I often get asked things that I find difficult to answer. Difficult because they might be complex topics to understand or explain. Difficult because I truly don’t know the answers or difficult because the question itself is just too bizarre!

Here are just 4 of the trickier questions she asked me last week:


1. Death. At the moment Alice seems to be fascinated about death and dying. Last summer my father in-law sadly died and we were in a quandary about what to say to our daughters. All the best advice told us to be honest and talk openly and plainly. But let’s face it, death is a subject that even adults don’t have the answers for and we spent a fair amount of time trying to answer such questions as “How did Grandpa get to heaven without any wings?”

Last week Alice found a dead ladybird in the lounge and without thinking about it, I threw it out into the garden. This was probably not the best thing to do because for the next few days she kept asking me why I did that. She wanted to know if the ladybird was dead why was he in the garden and not up in heaven……..


2. Divorce. After a recent play date with a friend whose parents are recently divorced, Alice announced that Mia (not her real name) “doesn’t have a daddy.” Apparently Mia had told Alice this directly. I explained that yes she still does have a daddy who she sees regularly but that her mummy and daddy don’t live together any more. This created a lot of intrigue, puzzlement and quite a few questions over why some parents are together and others don’t live in the same house any more.



3. Science. At 4, I guess Alice is trying to make sense of the world around her in the physical as well as the emotional sense. Last week she asked me “Mummy, why is the sky blue?” Errr…… I felt like I should really know this one. Put on the spot like that, it was almost like I was back at school. I mulled it over in my head. Is it something to do with the light? Or is it something to do with the reflection from the sea?  In the end I was honest and said “I’m not sure why the sky is blue, but let’s look it up when we get home.” As soon as we got home she was off busy with something else and we both forgot about it. I’ve just Googled the question and the answer is enough to bamboozle an adult let alone a 4 year old! I have no idea how you would attempt to explain that to a child!


4. The Downright Weird. In amongst all the serious questions, I get some bizarre ones thrown into the mix too which makes you wonder what on earth is going on in their heads. Last week Alice asked,”Do farmers wear the same clothes every day?”  I had to refrain myself from saying “Whaaat?” or try hard not to laugh too much. Where on earth did that come from? Has she seen a particular farmer wearing the same clothes more than once? Is it something she’s watched on TV?  Who knows, but at least I could easily and truthfully answer “No they do not!”


These are just 4 of the questions that I was asked last week. It really does make you wonder what children are thinking about and strange to think that this is all part of the process of them growing up and questioning the world around them.


Do your kids ask you difficult or random questions? I’d love to hear what they are!


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0 thoughts on “4 Tricky Questions from A 4 Year Old

  1. Ha! This made me laugh as so familiar (although I haven’t had anything about farmers – yet!) Like you I’ve had quite a lot of death-related questions (“but what ACTUALLY happens….??” I kept getting asked – it’s great really they’re so matter of fact and unemotional about it all at this age isn’t it?!) A lot of our questions also seem to be around how various food items are made (baked beans, cheese, whatever else she has on her plate..) We even bought her a children’s encyclopedia to help answer all those burning questions, but half the time she’ll beat me to it now by just saying “Oh let’s just Ask Google mummy..” (Thank God for Google….)

  2. I think farmers were the same clothes most of the time…as each other as well. Kids come up with some brilliant questions don’t they?! I can’t think of any Evie has asked me recently but sometimes I’m really stumped for answers! A friend of mine’s daughter asked her mummy yesterday (they are learning about the Queen, her birthday and the national anthem) “How did God save the Queen?” – an interesting one! #bloggerclubuk

  3. my son is not 4 yet but definitely asks us really strange questions sometimes. Lately he asked: ‘Why are you my mummy?’ to which i responded: because i grew you in my belly and i love you very much. Then he asks ‘How did I get in your belly?????’ Not sure i’m ready to answer or that he would understand anyway 🙂


  4. I love the questions kids ask that is what is so great about being a teacher you have no idea what they are going to say/ask usually something totally unrelated to what you are talking about too. I remember my son asking a similar question and I think it is related to some people wearing uniforms for their work?! Perhaps she’s been talking about people who help us at school?

    1. Oh yes!! Thank you that totally makes sense! My daughter often asks why she has to wear the same things every day so now I get the connection. Thanks for enlightening me!! X

  5. I love that age. And I love how they have no fear about asking questions. My friend’s four year old had so many questions about why our little girl has two mummies and I love that she was able to ask in innocence, with no judgement. Judgement is taught, after all. #bloggerclubuk

  6. Oh wow! The 3 D’s – Death, Divorce and Downright Weird! Sounds like you handled them as best you could with a child this young, but they are some tough questions!! I don’t think my mummy would be able to answer those very well. I’m 3 years old and haven’t stated to ask those kinda questions yet! Phew! #BloggerClubUK

  7. I love this stage with the weird and wonderful questions and they can be really tricky and make you struggle to answer. I loved her last question about the farmer, I wonder where that one came from! #coolmumclub

    1. It’s sometimes hard to find the answers, but I love the randomness! Someone else just mentioned that the farmer question could be related to her thinking about wearing school uniform every day which does make sense! X

  8. Oh, I LOVE this. ‘Do farmers wear the same clothes every day?’ NG asked me on our walk this morning what colour gravity is. I love her being two but I think her being four could be even more fun … thanks for posting this; it’s brightened my morning! #coolmumclub

  9. Ah the questions! My oldest is only just starting with the questions, but I was recently explaining the days of the week. It went a bit like this:

    Me: “So it goes, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.”
    Tot: “Why?”

    Me: “Meh.”

    Good luck and please share the answers as I think I may soon be needing them xx


  10. LOL! We are starting to get some of these and my stock response seems to be “that’s an interesting question…she will look it up”. I remember my dad knowing the answer to EVERYTHING. Don’t think I will be remembered in that way somehow lol! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub chick xx

  11. The Death, Divorce and Sex ones leave us dumbfound, don’t they? As much as we would like to be honest, we cannot explain EVERYTHING to an innocent four-year-old!!! My Little Man’s still 2.5 but the ‘Why Mummy’ questions have begun… let’s see what’s next. Thanks for sharing.

  12. Aww bless her, some of them are really rather insightful questions. I’m a big of saying I don’t know, let’s look it up. Thankfully my son isn’t too full of questions yet but when he does ask something it’s nearly always impossible to answer! #TheList

  13. We had the big one from our 4yo this week… How did [dangermouse] get out of your tummy?
    I answered this btw… It wasn’t easy but the doctors helped mummy.
    She seemed happy!!
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub

  14. Wow they are some seriously challenging questions. Your answers sound ideal. I don’t know how I will tackle my girl’s questions in future – probably with a lot of humour – but given that she’s not talking yet, I have a bit of time to prepare. Phew 😉 #KCACOLS

  15. kids can ask the strangest things! All 3 of my kids went through a stage of doing northing but talk and ask about death. #KCACOLS

  16. Oh this is such a lovely post to read. I love the curiosity of children and the watching them try to make sense of the world around them! You did make me smile about why the sky is blue – I thought to myself – should I know that?! Glad its a tricky one but will definitely be looking up later. Isn’t blogging great because you’ve got all of these wonderful memories written down to share with your daughter when she is older! #KCACOL

  17. I get so many random questions, although specifics really escape me today! I do remember my almost 4 year-old following me into the bathroom when I went to change my tampon and looking utterly horrified by the whole process. When he asked me what I was doing, I had to give him a very well diluted version of the truth. Then he asked me “But you are bleeding, mummy. Are you going to die?” Oh dear. He also asked me how I made him last week… Erm… I think I said something about eggs and tadpoles and a big mixing bowl. Enough to traumatise any child,’l for sure! #KCACOLS

  18. Ha! That’s a funny one about farmers wearing the same clothes – and one of the easier ones you had to answer last week! My kids have had times where they keep asking about death. It’s a hard thing to understand & processes. Especially what part of you goes to heaven. Divorce is a tough one to explain too! You did well! Thanks so much for joining us at #bloggerclubuk x

  19. Haha I love how random kids train of thoughts are they really make you laugh don’t they. My niece is coming up to this stage and she comes out out with some right random things lately!
    Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

  20. The farmer question had me laughing so hard! How random and out of the blue-haha. My little is only a year old, so I still have quite a while before he’s asking me tough questions like that. …Maybe I should start studying!! #KCACOLS

  21. My 3 year old is getting close to this stage, I am already getting the ‘why not?’ and trying to stop myself sounding like my own mum with because I said so! I can’t wait for the random questions although I imagine google will be my best friend then! Sorry, I’m a little late commenting on last weeks #KCACOLS xx

    1. I have no idea, but she asked that question about farmers again the other day so I think there’s a fixation on it! Don’t even go there with the blue sky!! X

  22. Kids ask the weirdest questions! When I was a camp counsellor, I had the following exchange with a group of 5-year-olds: “Do you have a boyfriend?” “Yes.” “Is he Superman?” “No.” “Is he Batman?” “No.” “Does he have the big, bushy eyebrows?” “Errr….yes, actually.” #chucklemums

  23. I think it’s really common for this age group to be fascinated with death. We get quite a lot of questions from the boy about this. Thanks for linking again!! #chucklemums

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