Time for The Hating to Stop

I went to bed fairly early on Thursday night and the predictions for the vote was that the Remain campaign would win. Like many other people, I woke on Friday utterly shocked at hearing the news that we were out of the EU.

I was in a state of disbelief for the rest of the day and along with the country and indeed the world, watched events unfold; David Cameron resigned, the pound plummeted, other countries expressing their regret and shock.

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On that Friday I could do little else. I was (and still am) worried. I worry about the economy which was fragile enough before Thursday. I worry about the impact on jobs now and for people in the future. I worry about the implications for my husband who works for a German company. I worry about Scotland drifting off on their own away from Great Britain. I worry about prices increasing, interest rates rising and taxes rising. More than anything I worry about how all of this will affect the lives of our children.

Perhaps, if I’m being optimistic then this turmoil will quieten down over the coming days and weeks and things will regain some degree of normality. Perhaps in the long run things will work out for us; perhaps the economy will rally and we will make new trading agreements with other countries both inside and outside the EU…Perhaps.

But for the short term it feels chaotic. The country feels like we are in a mess. Politicians resigning and being fired all over the place and Scotland threatening to leave. I feel like we have become not just the laughing stock of Europe, but the world. So I can only hope that things will turn around.


Stand Together and Stop Hating

More than all this, we need to stand together. I recently wrote a blog about the need for more empathy on social media. I wrote how many people in certain situations are too quick to judge others. Perhaps after writing this post, I should not have been shocked that this election result would be no different. Yet as the events of Thursday’s election result continued to unfold, I was disturbed at just how aggressive social media posts were becoming from people on both sides of the argument. Friends on Facebook were resulting to full on slanging matches in full view of everyone else. Yes, this is an emotional matter that will affect us all, but where is the decorum and the dignity. Surely we are better than this? Than resulting to a public cat fight?

As you’ve probably gathered from this post, I voted Remain. But I have friends on and family on both sides of the fence. And yes, whilst I have grave concerns about our country and our future, my overwhelming feeling is of sadness. Sadness that we have become such a divided country. Sadness that there is so much hate and bitterness to each other. Surely this isn’t going to help anyone or anything.

The country is currently in turmoil, but we need to stand together now in order to move forward. Once the shock and despair has subsided a bit, we need to move on. And we need to move forward with love and tolerance of each other.

Love over Hate

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47 thoughts on “Time for The Hating to Stop

  1. I couldn’t agree more. I did vote leave but could see both sides of the argument. After seeing comments on social media early Friday morning which were insulting, rude and offensive from voters on both sides I was very disappointed in a lot of people. I agree that we have difficult times ahead and there is a lot of uncertainty but surely this should be a time for the British to pull together not be going to war on one another and I hope that with time the divisions will become less prominent.

  2. I couldn’t agree more. Friday I felt the same as you. Worried and not enjoying the uncertainty. Friday I could forgive a lot of the nastiness and bitterness I saw on social media. People were shocked. But it has continued. On both sides. It is not constructive nor helpful. It needs to stop. Xx

    1. I think we were all in a state of shock on Friday! I couldn’t concentrate on much else. The nastiness on social media and the disgusting racism that has occurred recently all needs to stop. X

  3. Very well written, it’s tough as a Mom not to get worried about political decisions that you know will affect the future of your family. In the States we are completely overwhelmed with politicians making the “best” decisions for us normal folks that it is very frustrating and all too much at times. I have learned to put my faith in God and just trust that things will work themselves out. I vote, contribute to society, and say a lot of prayers! The hate on social media is ridiculous, and I agree we need to respect one another’s views no matter what side we are on and stop the nonsense. You are teaching your kids good things. I wish the best for the UK and know the dust will settle. Good post 🙂 #KCACOLS

    1. Thank you so much. I agree worry about the future and for my kids dominated a lot of my thoughts at the weekend, but in order to move on we definitely need to pull together and get on with things now. Thanks xx

  4. People have really laid into each other on social media haven’t they, and as for what’s happening in parliament today…I wonder where it will end #KCACOLS

  5. I’ve been writing a similar post (mentally) over the last few days, I didn’t want to become embroiled in this political saga but having seen some utterly disgusting things posted on social media and hearing it’s torn families apart, I can’t not publish it. I’m utterly shocked and dismayed at the way some people have conducted themselves since Thursday. Well written piece. #bigpinklink

  6. I’m still very saddened over the decision, but it’s happening and we need to muddle through. I tried to stay away from the circus, but couldn’t after seeing so many horrible posts on social media. I’m very worried, especially since there’s so much uncertainty, but we’ll see what happens. #BloggerClubUK

  7. I agree wholeheartedly. No amount of hating is going to change anything so might as well stand together. I’ve heard awful things being said about both sides and it’s ridiculous. We also need to stand together against those who are carrying out racist attacks and feel that the vote legitimised this #bloggerclubuk

  8. Great post. The fallout has been shocking – at a time when people need to band together, some are using this as an excuse to unleash their racism and xenophobia. #KCACOLS

    1. Yes, the racism came out after I published this post and I’ve found that unbelievable. I find it disgusting that people think they can behave this way after the result of a political result. X

  9. I was and still am so so upset. my whole family on both sides voted out and I feel anger and betrayal. to the extent I still haven’t spoken to them. I don’t want to fall out but I just feel they didn’t truly understand what it would impact. their primary concerns were immigration. and this just saddens me even more. im slowly starting to come through anger and denial and move acceptance #KCACOLS

    1. I understand what you’re saying. Last week I was in complete shock and disbelief. I’m still scared by the result and ensuing chaos but this is no time to turn on each other. We have to believe we can make it work. The racism is more of a worry….. X

  10. I couldn’t agree more. We need to to stand together, now more than ever! It is so sad that we are all so quick to turn on one another. I know it is because we all feel so passionately about it regardless of which way we voted, but spreading hate and animosity is only going to make life tougher. #KCACOLS

  11. The situation at the moment makes me sick to my stomach. I saw a friend’s post, a British national, born and raised and knows no other home, be made to feel unwelcome because he is of Chinese decent. He has been told to go home. He is home, and leaving the EU will not make this any less his home. For a start his family are form sodding China which is not only NOT in the EU but also NOT in Europe. I realise that this may seem totally irrelevant but it seems as though the Leave vote has legitimised racism and xenophobia and giving some sort of ‘permission’ for people to be arse-holes to our friends and neighbours. I watch the news and read the papers and am deeply saddened by what I see. I thought that as the generations past we were all becoming more tolerant, more integrated and more open minded, it turns out we were all just getting better at hiding how we felt. My only hope is that our children’s generation will evolve to be better than ours pretended we were. #bloggerclubuk

    1. Completely and utterly agree. When I first wrote this post the arguments on social media against the Leave and Remain campaigns were sickening enough, but I’ve watched in horror as the racism and xenophobia has unfolded this week. It’s dangerous and disgusting. And as you say seems to legitimise awful behaviour. None of it is acceptable and that’s what truly is worrying. I worry for what the future holds. Xx

  12. Well said. I too voted Remain and I think most of us were mainly saddened by the outcome than anything else. Especially when I read on Friday morning that a lot of foreign nationals felt they were not welcome or wanted here any more 🙁 #KCACOLS

  13. Well said, Cheryl. It is time to move forward indeed. I have also been surprised by reaction of people on social media and while I am not personally affected, the ripples can be felt as far as where I am and it is time to stop the hate. #bigpinklink

  14. Hi Cheryl, we are certainly going into uncertain times, which is bound to create and unsettled atmosphere, but there is no excuse for the hatred that has shown is ugly head. We all have our worries over what the future holds for us, but it is too late to change anything now. I just hope that that MP’s start acting in the interests of the People rather than themselves and that big lessons have been learned.


  15. The way people on both sides have gone on on social media has been disgraceful. If you had two children carrying on like that, they’d be told off. And now it’s escalated to actual violence, it’s shocking. The referendum should never have happened.
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK 🙂

  16. I cannot explain how upset I was with the result. It’s been upsetting for a lot of reasons, the lies during the campagins and the hate and the racism that have covered social media since. It feels like a bad dream! #KCACOLS

  17. I’m still feeling upset about the results. As you can see I voted in. I have also an Italian passport so I have been my whole life benefited of being part of the EU. It has open to me so many doors and I was in shocked when I found out that the UK will not remain part of the EU. It is so sad really. I really don’t know what will happen but I do agree with you that now we have to accept the outcome and keep together and hope for the best. Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m so sorry for commenting so late. I’m catching up this morning, xx

    1. I know Franca I felt the same, was so sad and shocked the day the results were announced. Let’s hope we can move forward from the recent complete circus and that it will all work out. Xx

  18. I totally agree with the sentiment here. But I think one thing I want to say is, that while being supportive and non- judgemental when others are simply expressing different options is essential, I will not hesitate to call people out when propagating ignorant and racist ideas. Unfortunately I have seen plenty of people, even amongst my friends on fb, express views like this. When this kind of thing is going on, it becomes so hard for us to be united. It’s a sad time. #bigpinklink

    1. Yes the racism and bigotry has been awful. With this and the political circus going on it is really hard to be united, I only hope we can move on together as a country and with each other. X

  19. Couldn’t agree more! I voted the same way as you and felt completely the same on Friday morning, still do. But what worries me the most is the divide it has created. I thought we were stronger as a nation, hopefully it will blow over and we will untie as we always have. Great post. Thank you for sharing with us at #bliggerclubuk hope to see you again this week x

    1. Thank you. It does still feel shocking even now but then a lot has happened; the political lies, resignations, in-fighting and then awful behaviour including serious racism. It’s like some kind of thriller novel! I agree, I hope we can move on and stand united again. X

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